A few things that move the dial on a child’s anxiety.
From the anxiety chapter, condensed.
- Co-regulate before you communicate. Your calm body settles theirs. Sit close. Slow your own breathing.
- Name the feeling out loud. “That sounds really hard.” Naming reduces the felt-strangeness of the emotion.
- Resist the urge to fix or reason it away. “Don’t be silly, there’s nothing to worry about” tells the child their feeling is wrong.